“Love a word that comes and goes……” I know you probably finished the rest of the infamous Kirk Franklin song. This was the song that played as I prepared to walk down the aisle on my wedding day. Even as I stood there waiting for my que, I recall meditating on those words and why we chose that song. That day, I wanted people to see the love of Christ. We didn’t want a song about our love (which is fine), but rather we wanted a song that represented love founded in Jesus Christ. Ladies, let me tell you I had no clue just how much I would need to rely on the love of Jesus Christ in our marriage. So, what does it really mean to love?

In John 15:12 states “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.”

In the passage of scripture, we see that Jesus was establishing the fact that love would dictate all aspects of our lives, and the disciples had a great responsibility of showing evidence of their faith through the way they loved others. We too are called to do the same and this includes loving our husbands. Furthermore, Jesus Christ showed the ultimate act of love when He sacrificed His life on the cross for us.

Listen my dear sis, sometimes it can be a struggle to walk out Galatians 5:22-23 (fruit of the spirit), that is to extend love, patience, kindness, gentleness, or practice any self-control. It can be challenging to demonstrate love when your spouse has left his clothes all over the floor again, didn’t uphold their end of the household duties, forgot to put gas in the car, continues to make you late for events, failed to rinse his dishes before placing them in the sink, or oops I’m sorry I got off on a tangent there (LOL). But, in all seriousness these are real matters and for some of us it goes far deeper than the things mentioned above. Yet, we are still commanded to love as He has loved us, and His love is not irritable, rude, or resentful, but rather it keeps no record of wrong, remains hopeful, never gives up and endures (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

You see ladies in our first year of marriage, we had difficulty adjusting to married life. The Lord would often remind me of His love for me by wiping my midnight hour tears, calming my anxious heart, providing me with soft answers, blessing me with other praying wives and forgiving me for my shortcomings in our marriage. If we pray, study the Word, and seek godly counsel it can help us love the way we should.

When we choose (yes, it’s a choice!) to love our husbands by following the example of Jesus Christ, we will see the transforming power of His love. No, your love is not enough to thrive in your marriage, but His love is!

Donald’s Good Thing,

Mrs. Danielle Sharice Wilson